Music to Give You a Boost

Geez, I’ve been terrible at posting regularly, haven’t I? Sorry about that. So hello out there!

Today I have a treat for you. 🙂 I’ve been working on putting together my playlist of “happy music.” Actually, I have a few of these, and I’ve now put together a list on Spotify. Happy, inspirational, fight-on type of music. And know what’s great about that? I can share it with you! If you haven’t tried Spotify, it’s free and pretty fun (and no, they haven’t paid me to say that.) 😉

I’ve tried to include a link below. Hopefully it works (but me and technology? meh…maybe.) 😉 You can also look up “Happy Music” (this one is “Happy and Motivational Music.” I’m Smuse56). 🙂

Music definitely affects my mood. Which is why it’s always good to have a great playlist to play on the days you’re either riding clouds…or perhaps under your very own personal black cloud. 😉 I hope this list helps bring a smile and a bounce to your step. 🙂

Are there any songs I should add to my list??

Thanks for reading! Wishing you a great week and happy writing. 🙂 And now, because I’ve been spending time making playlists rather than writing, I better get back to the words!

The Writer’s Best Friend: Yourself

March2013 005You’ve probably seen the saying or heard the advice that one of the best things you can be is your own best friend. For some reason, this phrase re-entered my life this week and has me pondering what that means when you’re a writer. Because let’s face it, when you’re in the middle of drafting, and sometimes on the dark, lonely days writing can create, you could darn well use a best friend!

So what does it mean if that best friend is you?

This week, I’ve been both struggling with a current WIP where I can’t seem to get a handle on the overall through-story (though I know lots of little bits and details), and I’ve been considering what my overall business plan is for the year in terms of managing and advancing my own career, and frankly, it leaves me a bit nervous.

The wisdom behind the idea of being your own best friend is that sometimes, no matter if you have the most supportive friends and family around you…sometimes they’re just not going to get it. And the one who has to give you the best advice for the situation, the one who will encourage and also challenge you, the one who will tell you the truth when you really need to hear it: that person is yourself. But, since we tend to be mean SOB’s when it comes to giving ourselves advice, far better to pretend we were giving our best friend that advice (because I certainly hope we’re nicer to them than we are when it comes to our own internal voice.)

This means today I can tell myself with confidence:

  • I know I have talent and I know what I’m doing as a writer…even if that doesn’t mean I can’t always continue to learn and evolve.
  • I’ve solved harder problems before, and I will figure out what’s holding me back with this current WIP and, eventually, I’ll make it sing.
  • There’s no sense worrying about things I can’t control. Instead, I should focus on the things I can control – like submitting my best work, and continuing to write and create new work.
  • Who I am as a writer today isn’t the same person I was as a writer last year, nor who I’ll be next year. And that’s both okay, and wonderful as I continue to grow and evolve.
  • Yes, some of the things I need to do this year scare me. But even if I fail spectacularly, it won’t kill me. It’s not how many times I fall, but how many times I get back up again (Yes, I think my inner-best-friend likes watching Batman Begins.) 😉
  • The advice I give my five-year-old is no less true for myself. No, you won’t be good at everything to start with – but with practice you’ll improve. No, not everyone will like you – but that doesn’t mean you won’t make friends. No, you’re not perfect, but that’s okay, no one is, and that’s what makes us human.

So what about you? Have you been trying to be your own best friend these days? I hope so. How’s it working out?

Thanks for stopping by, and wishing you a terrific week and happy writing!

On Lady Luck’s Bad Side

Do you believe in a deity or force that somehow controls your luck and good fortune? Maybe whether good things come your way or not? I know I use and have heard terms like your guardian angel / deity of choice / Lady Luck / Good Fortune is looking out for you when good things happen. Then there’s life under a black cloud or enmity of a deity or that somehow the “universe” is out to get you when things look bad.

You may have noticed today’s post is, well, really late. It’s been kind of one of those weeks / months here at our house. For me, I’m not sure whether it’s autumn sneaking up (which means it’s bad big brother winter is lurking nearby), and being stuck in rewrites now for what’s just passed the one year mark. Hubby is likewise having a hard time at work, and it’s unusual for both of us to be down at the same time.

Just look for the black cloud, and you could probably follow it to our house.

But here’s the thing: while I may say that some supernatural / outside force is what somehow forces us to be unhappy, that’s total B.S. While I don’t think the universe is out to get us, I also don’t think it much cares what we do. What matters most is how we deal with it at the end of the day (either in a literal sense of end of the day, or metaphorically looking back over the course of our lives).

WE decide whether we are happy or satisfied. WE decide to be happy … or conversely, to be unhappy. So if there is a black cloud or grumpiness demon, we attracted him with our own grumpy-ass nature and decisions.

Sure, it can be annoying as all heck to consider that gee, I’ve decided to be unhappy? But it can also be empowering, because it means we have the choice to remember to be grateful for all the wonderful things that ARE in our lives, rather than focusing on the less-than-perfect aspects.

So anyway, I’m going to go out with a broom on the roof now and shoo that cloud away – and grumpiness demon, I’m after YOU next. Then I’m going to sit down and get to work, and figure out how to make my writing better (and finish the darned rewrites!), as well as make my life better by focusing on the good bits rather instead.

What about you? Dark clouds on your horizon, or are things sunny and clear? Do you truly believe you can determine your own happiness?

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Have a great week, all, good, bad, or ugly. 😉